As human beings we are prone to experience both ‘pain and suffering’. Pain is the feeling while suffering is the effect the pain inflicts. If one can endure pain, one can live without suffering. Here is what Alikala has to say.
The Ups and Downs of Life
Each day is a passing nightmare. We are faced with different problems in life. Sometimes doing our best is not good enough. We feel like we would amount to nothing despite our persistent effort to achieve our target. The pressure we receive deepens more during the approach and finds ourselves at an impasse.
Being positive all the time doesn’t mean a person is always happy. We are charged with our guilt as if it was a crime to think thoughtlessly since it’s affecting the environment as a whole, especially to our competent generations. We are not to let an ounce of suffering echo through their life to let them have and live a comfortable life while we endure the pain like it’s a challenge of fortitude. But neither do we want to exploit their future success. Afraid that it would affect their lifestyle and their relentless performance, we try to hide our deep scar. But no scar can be illusioned. The deeper the scar, the harder it is to view the world on a positive note. Then without anyone’s glances, we let out our unheard cries.
I wonder how many of us will still be enduring the pain along with our entire life. I wonder if that’s the right path to yearn for a peaceful life. How can we make our scar disappear and act like it was nothing? But then, no matter the level of darkness we may fall into, we all desire a little ray of light to overshadow the darkness. But where there’s light, there’s always a shadow. The hardship will come again through different waves and levels. So I hope the ray of light we’ve received in the form of family comfort, a new love, a stable friendship, an honored job whatever form it may be, I hope we got a grasp of how it felt.
With the feeling of yesterday’s happiness, let us build a better life today for ourselves and construct a foundation for those who wish to be loved, cared and supported so that we can remember how good and great it is to be loved again with a different outlook on lifes’ tragedy. Let us discover that beauty lies in tragedy and through tragedy we learn to understand the depth of someone’s throbbing pain.
We chose to silence our suffering and yet we blame those who cannot identify the pain we’ve endured. Sometimes the choice is given to us to make the decisions but because of our unreasonable chosen path, we mess up big time. The others won’t know about our problems if we don’t open up, won’t they? But that’s not the problem here. We’re scared if they might understand our problems. Because of that, we tend to shut ourselves from opening up to potential humans who can help us.
Our thoughts start to become the sole purpose for our actions and morph us drastically. The way we perceive an idea changes the entire attitude to a given mental problem. Our minds are tricked by the strong opposition or support of other principles and values that we forget and discard our very own life values. Trying to meet and follow the values of another, we tend to overlook the track of our plan and start to lose ourselves on the way. We forget that we have our shoes to walk confidently on while chasing for the wrong pursuits.
The people who have been through a lot of agony in their life are subjected to cast away from their normal way of living and view the world from a different perspective. The results can be encouraging or discouraging depending on the profundity of depression a person has endured. The depths of a person’s pain cannot be comprehended by a person who has led a happy life. Our illusion of a perfect life is shattered when all hopes are lost and we perceive the idea to be left alone. But underneath that we all want someone to seek us and see through the cracks of our smiles. But we imagine this to be a selfish act and beyond this, our ties are severed. However, the views on life can be different for several people.
The brightest smile indeed hides the deepest pain. Because of the presence of strong-willed people around the world, not all hopes are vanquished. Trapped in the suffocating darkness where no voice can be heard, they are the light, the ray of hope that outshines the eternal void. They teach us a lot more than what meets the eye only if we are willing to learn. The choice was always ours to make. But they are only humans after all. They may appear to be superheroes and role models for us, however, they experience lethargy and loneliness as well. So let us return the favor by supporting and encouraging them to do better, to be brave like they always have. Let us remind them how important and precious they are to make for making a greater impact on our lives. By learning from the best, let us influence and help those who are barely hanging onto life and reach our hands out for them to have a sense of safety and security. Let’s lend a hand to save them from drowning any further.
Degree of Thought is a weekly community column initiated by Tetso College in partnership with The Morung Express. Degree of Thought will delve into the social, cultural, political and educational issues around us. The views expressed here do not reflect the opinion of the institution. Tetso College is a NAAC Accredited UGC recognised Commerce and Arts College. The editors are Dr Hewasa Lorin, Dr. Aniruddha Babar, Aienla A, Rinsit B Sareo, Meren Lemtur and Kvulo Lorin.
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